My main problem is I want to try this out, but I work 50-60 hours a week and my wife is the one who doesn't work. I've been talking to her about this and trying to "bring her over to the dark side". She flat out refuses and I need some fodder to throw at her. She has a degree in elementary education and I usually defer to her in the *learning* department. Besides, she would be the main party implementing this since she would be the one, between the two of us, most affected.
Her reasons for not wanting to try are several: He needs social interaction with other children his age (we live 35 mins away from the closest americans we know in Germany and even if we did travel that distance to visit them, they would be in skrewel most of the time); She hates other homeschool parents (mostly because their houses are always trashed [not just messy, actually disgusting with food all over the floors/walls and wierd smells and bugs and just unsanitary and in some cases unsafe to even walk through]; their children are horrible brats [her words not mine]); and the biggest reason, it defeats the whole purpose of her going to college all those years.
I've been starting with most of the methods on Joyce's website of the deschooling behavioral stuff (I can't help the bedtime and other skrewel realted stuff till I can convince her to pull him out) and I've had only one minor outburst from ds, but that was only because mommy kept walking in front of him to clean while he was playing Spyro and getting him killed, so I politely asked her to stop cleaning until he got tired of playing. She stopped and he instanly calmed down, and was done playing about an hour later so it only became a minor inconvienience for her to stop.
I've also been trying to explain some of the concepts to her as they arise such as, he wanted to watch his favorite show on DVD and he kept wanting to FFWD it to his favorite parts (he can use the remote himself so he just starts doing it) and my wife (can i say dw like everyone else says dh.. lol) was checking her myspace. Well she kept telling him to stop FFWD'ing it and just watch it all the way through. When I stopped her and asked "Is it really a problem if he FFWD's it? Your not watching it."
Instanly I saw something click behind those beautiful blue eyes (I've kinda been pushing her on this sort of thing [letting go on things that really don't matter but we are just so darn used to saying no]). But, shes still firm on him going to skrewel for all the above reasons plus she just plain like the teacher and doesn't want to offend her by pulling him out. Plus, I think she really relishes the alone time that he is at skrewel.
Help please... what do I do? I can't even get her to sit down and really go through Joyce's site (which I thought was a really amazing reference).