Since RUers are so creative by nature, I was wondering if you all had some neat ideas for ways two people who love each other VERY much but are busy with life can stay connected and find some time to talk and be maybe WITHOUT the little ones for just a few moments?
Unlike most of our friends, my hubby and I don't have weekly date nights, we don't put the kids to bed at 7pm so we can be alone, and he goes to bed early/gets up early (I mean out by 9 up by 5) and I stay up late/get up with the kids (down by 12? up by 8ish).
With APing and RUing, we spend the majority of our time with our children, which we don't mind at all. We still are sleeping with out twins, who are 15 months old. We don't trust very many people to watch our kids, so going out without them is rare, though the babies are old enough that Grandma can finally be with them alone without them crying, so there's a step.
But I wondered if you had any creative ideas vs. just the standard night out without kids for getting a chance to just talk and BE with each other without the kids interrupting or needing us for something.
We really don't mind that the kids need us, so I'm not trying to say that we don't want our kids or that we want to shut them up! Unlike most people we don't pine away for a day all to ourselves (even each of us alone - we tend to be homebodies vs. "out with the guys" type of people.)
But there are times when it would be nice to tell my husband about my day and hear about his without 25 different distractions going on around us.
What are some neat things you've discovered that work in your family? For reference, our children are 6, 4, and the twins. I know that this will become easier as they get older and can understand that Daddy WILL indeed listen to all their stories, but then Mommy gets a turn, too! It's mostly the two little ones that keep us going all the time for now...we thought APing ONE baby was tough, but TWO is just plain exhausting! :)