As I'm starting to grasp more and more what the RU lifestyle entails (the details - the overall gist I had, but it's the every day practical JUST DO IT! stuff that I'm workin' on!), I'm wondering, as I have with other AP practices, where does tolerance fit in with Radical Unschooling?
When making my parenting choices, I have read, questioned, looked inside myself (this one the most often), and reflected on my faith. In the end, after looking at the end result in children from other families practicing the style I wanted to try, and knowing that it was the only decision that would bring me peace, I went ahead and naturally parented my children, from birth on.
But I struggle with not judging other people. I have tried to grasp in the last year the fact that what is best for ME and MY FAMILY is not always what is best for OTHER PEOPLE and THEIR FAMILIES. And yet, I don't always believe that statement...because I think that some of the things I do ARE best for everyone (unless there are concrete reason why they can't be done - ie. nursing an adopted baby, though possible, can't always be done...staying home with your children as a single mom, etc.)
I'm wondering if there's a better way to picture this in my head? Although it seems unschooling has certain attributes that everyone agrees on, it's more that it LACKS attributes that traditional parenting claims (bed times, meal times, punishments). Unschooling is a way of living, more so than a set of "do's" and "don'ts" (which would be easier for me to follow - I was great at school!)
Do RUers view their way of life as the ultimate natural way of living, that all people, if they allowed themselves, COULD do and be happier for it, or do they think of it as "this is best for me, but it's not for everyone..."
And I know this may differ for each RUer. I struggle with thinking the former, but know that I should be thinking the latter.
And yet, sometimes there ARE certain truths that pertain to everyone, correct? (I'm actually asking this, it's not rhetorical!) One example might be: "Children are more emotionally stable in homes where both the father and mother reside in mutual harmony, than if there are two homes with the father at one and the mother the other and discord inbetween."
How do we differentiate between truths that are for a few, and truths that are for all. if that makes sense?
In other words, I'd like to say that Breastfeeding is best for all babies. And I'd be right in a certain sense, I think (again...uncertain here! Too many variables) but there will always be mothers who for one reason or another chose not to breastfeed or tried and couldn't, and will feel defensive and hurt from that statement. Can that statement ever be true? Or only partially true? Or does that not even make sense?
How tolerant IS unschooling of all the other ways of raising a family?