I'm slowly integrating unschooling into every area of our lives, and the housework issue is really proving difficult for me. I think I need an attitude adjustment- please help me explore the nether regions of my brain.
Firt off, the situation at my house. I'm a single mom and I have four kids ages 9, 7, 5, and 4. I'm not talking about a one baby and one toddler level of housework. This is a LOT more work than that. Four free big kids exploring and playing can very quickly trash an entire house and create several hours of work. And of course there is no other adult to pitch in.
My mom's attitude towards housework was that we would do our chores and help when we saw her working or else. So I get bent out of shape, deep down, when I'm working and other people are standing around or having fun. Does anyone have similar feelings and any ways to counteract that thinking? How can I help myself be more ok with the fact that my kids will cheerfully trash a room with toys and food all over the floor and then run off to do something else, or even demand I do something for them while I'm trying to clean up after them?
Seriously, I resemble the maid of four pampered royal children. That's just what it looks like to me. Please help me find another way to understand this situation.
I have a lot of anger around this, and I know that in itself hinders the process of nurturing a helpful attitude in my kids. I'm afraid I often don't ask for help because I can't help expecting it- as in 'you should buckle down and do it cheerfully!' and then blowing my top when they don't do anything.
I used to try to 'make' them do chores, but that amounted to me trying to follow four divergent bodies around, yelling. I was outnumbered, and it just didn't work. Not to mention that the yelling just had to get louder.
Sorry this rambled on so much. If you're still reading, do you have any advice for me?