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I can't think of a single "bad decision" in life that would absolutely ruin everything. If my daughter is deciding to run into oncoming traffic, then I would definitely decide to stop her. however, deciding what to wear, whether or not to use the potty, which words to use, whether or not to say thank you, or wear shoes today - these decisions will not have life-long consequences.
Not being allowed to think for oneself, THAT has lifelong consequences.
A child who has all the decisions made for them is NOT going to feel very secure as an adult, when no one is there to make decisions for them. Children can feel safety knowing that they are loved, and that no "decision" is going to ruin everything. Life is good. I wonder why people distrust kids so much,