Hello, all. I have only been on this board a couple of months, and have been thoroughly enjoying all of the posts, the different points of view, and the wide variety of people and topics. I guess now it is time for me to ask for support on an issue I am having.
I have a 5 yr old boy (P.S. I have no idea what ds's & dd's are, so if someone could clue me in....) who is a doll (yes, that is technical term). He is very sensitive to energy and emotion, etc, and is very loving and outgoing. He has never had regular schooling so is still also very curious about how things work. Lately, however - like the past 3-4 wks or so - he has been scared of certain things. He doesn't get too emotional about it, but now requires my husband and I to turn the light on for him in two specific rooms in the house due to things hanging on the wall. Despite our gentleness with him and our consistency in going in these places with him, he is still unable to enter these two rooms alone w/o light.
Here comes the question - what is the path that will honor him the most, while also not buying into the idea that there is something to be afraid of? I don't want to put down his fears - belittle them. But I also don't want to agree with him that there is anything to be scared of. My husband is starting to become a little impatient, and has suggested we just take the stuff off the wall. I am okay with that, as long as it isn't showing our son that they ARE scary. You get my drift? I hope I am explaining myself well. I think this is a great example of something very tied into an old way of doing things, and I am really looking forward to insight on a new way to look at the situation.
Some insight to the situation: the items are a sun clock in the bathroom, and two dreamcatchers in his room (his brother's - they don't stay here most of the time). He isn't afraid of his dreamcatcher, just theirs. Also, I'd like to add that the fears came up right around the same time my roommate got a Wii and Zayne (son) started watching us play Mario Kart. I think the animation of it might have sparked the fears of things he didn't used to be afraid of. So I am also considering not letting him watch that anymore - but then again, that feels like punishment for being afraid and/or control. Whew!
Thanks in advance for any help on this.
To the Vision of Truth,