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Hello everyone my name is Jenn. I am a SAH mom of 3. Both my boys, ages 13 and 8, go to public school. Both of my boys were labeled "slow readers" in 1st grade and held back for this very reason. My middle son has been labeled "special needs" also because he is a super energetic, easily frustrated, often aggressive child. When I was forced to work after a divorce in early 2005 I had no choice but to have him see doctors so he could be "controlled". We started on meds in 2006 and things were CRAZY to say the least. All these drugs and no real improvement. To skip forward a bit I remarried in mid 2007 and got pregnant with my daughter early 2008. At that time I chose to stay home for the sake of everyone. I have been looking into unschooling for awhile. Homeschooling with curriculum does not appeal to me at all, so I am wanting to skip straight to unschooling. The problem I am having is that years of conflict have caused relationship issues between mysel and my two boys. We spend most of our days arguing and fussing over EVERYTHING. I have no support system, family, or anyone for that matter where we live. My husband works 24 hour shifts as a fire captain. I desperately want to do this but I am afraid that I will LOOSE MY MIND!! Selfishly I have seen there time in school as a break and peace and quiet from the chaos. I know that sounds awful but if you were a fly on the wall you would understand. My desire to unschool is fueled by the fact that they are both considered "behind". There grades do not reflect what the school considers acceptable. They are both bright boys and I don't want them getting the message that they are not good or smart enough. Just like me, I feel that they will be eager to learn the things that interest them. I just need support. Any suggestions!!!????
Also....I chose to stop meds for my 8 year old based on the fact that during the summer he should just be a kid and burn his energy off outside. I know as soon as he gets into school they will try to tell me he needs them. I WILL NOT put him on anything again. This is why I need help in this matter. Thanks