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Hi, looking for a few thoughts and ideas on how to make our evenings work for everyone in the family.
I have 2 girls, ages 3 & 5. They usually get up between 8-9am, and go to sleep around 10-11pm.
I tend to follow this sleep pattern too.
My husband though works long hours. He's up and left for work by 8am, before we're up, and isn't home until at least 7pm. By the time we've had tea and cleared up it's often 9pm. The girls are usually still up and wanting to play. I'm pretty tired and my husband is exhausted.
I quite like them being up and about and can continue doing my things (like using the internet, watching tv or reading) while they play around me, but my husband finds it really hard. He says he finds it stressful, difficult to concentrate and it's sensory overload with so many things going on late at night. He also says we never have any adult time together to just talk or watch films we want to watch, like scary movies.
Sometimes we can all watch a film together, but our 3 year old often finds it difficult to sit through and we often can't agree on a film we all want to watch.
Sometimes my husband watchs a film with our 5 year old in our lounge and I watch a different film with our 3 year old in our playroom. This works ok but means I spend even less time with my husband.
I'm not sure what to do. I think ultimately he'd like the children to go to bed earlier, but he also accepts that their current sleeping pattern works well for us, just not him.
I've tried to think of different ways to deal with this but can't seem to see a way to make it work for everyone.