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It occurred to me that more resources may not be what you're looking for - can you clarify a few things for me? It may help. It sounds like your parents are saying something on the order of "okay, you can unschool if you do all the paperwork" - is that right? And you're having trouble even knowing where to get started and looking for help with that? If that's the case, an unschooling teen isn't likely to have the kind of information you need because most unschooling teens have parents who are willing to do the "dirty work" of appeasing the state so that they can go about the more important business of living their lives. What you're looking for then is a mentor - someone who can do those things your parents aren't willing or able to do to help you out. Is that what you need? A mentor?
If that's the case, by all means ask here, ask on those other NY lists, even ask on Unschooling Basics and any other list you can find (are you on Facebook? if so join the unschooling list there and maybe HUG, too) for exactly that, a mentor. I know there are adults who have put themselves "out there" as mentors for teens - that's one of the reasons someone suggested the Autodidact Symposium, there are going to be adults there in person willing to do some mentoring. But if you can't get there, shouting out on the internet is another option.
If you're not looking for a mentor per se, just help figuring out the rather byzantine homeschool laws of your area, you might want to ask for help on home/unschooling lists all over again but without saying that you're a teen - just say you're struggling to figure out the laws and requirements as they pertain to teens, but don't come out and say the teen is you. I know that seems sneaky, but its actually possible you'll get more information that way.
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