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I am in search for RU families with 6+ kiddos. I am particularly interested in how larger families rhythms of the day go such as daily tasks and room sharing. We are expecting our 5th child in 4 wks and as our family grows and our rhythm changes to meet everyone’s growing needs I find myself looking for better solutions to daily tasks and bedroom sharing. I am at the end of my pregnancy and find myself exhausted with little sleep and have lost my umph to complete daily tasks so you can imagine the condition of my home lol. Looking for some advice and stories from larger RU families.

 

Peace & Love,

Jennifer

 

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Jennifer, I'm watching and hoping you get some good responses! I have two, and as I let my mind wander to the possibility of a third, I have a lot of these same questions in my mind: how to help everyone get their needs met? how to keep up physically? how to get the stuff done that needs to get done? how to keep the umph? :)
The reality is, of course, that people with a lot of children have even less time to explain how they manage than those with a few. Add in the fact that it's summer and traffic drops off, September is a better time to ask if there's a chance someone will answer.
Well, we aren't a family of 6+. I do have 4 boys. I would love to have 6 kids, but it's not in the cards. :)
Having all boys makes bedroom sharing a bit easier. We have 3 bedrooms and for awhile while the littlest was an infant, he had his own room. And the 3 bigger boys shared. Now the biggest and littlest share and the middle 2 share.
As for daily happenings. Most of the time they play together and then take some space from each other as needed. My oldest is really into computer games and will play all day and then get off to go roller skate. My 2nd oldest isn't into dinos and reptiles so he makes habitats all over the house. There is no empty sink. They are 1/2 filled with water and little tiny water animals. :) My 3rd, he kind of follows my 2nd around and when he wants to do his own thing, he builds with whatever he can find. And the little guy just likes to cause problems for the big guys.
I hope that helps!
And congratulations on your probably new arrival!!!
Hello,
This might be a little bit of a different question, but I am wondering how larger families deal with kids who feel like they are getting short changed? my 14 year old DD is into horses and the hunter/jumper thing, it is an expensive hobby especially with all of the showing costs, clothing needs, hotel stays ect.. on the other hand my other children(I have 7 total) want to enjoy hobbies as well, some aren't into things that cost as much and some want to be in things that are also costly. How do you fairly give everyone what they want? I just can't justify spending $$ on each and every single thing, yet I wonder if it is fair that one child is into something that costs more? this causes resentment among them and a fair amount of arguments ect.. sometimes I feel like nobody can do anything then because it all costs so much. My daughter has been riding since she was 4 and everyone tells her she has alot of natural ability and could go far. Wondering how to make it all equal or fair?
Just wanted to chime in on this one - remember that equal and fair are not the same thing. You can treat your kids fairly without things being equal. It's totally fair to spend less on one child than another if you are equally supporting their interests. Horses are more expensive than swim team, but both kids are happy doing something they love, so there's no need to feel guilt over money. Money is just a tool. It's no different than crayons or paper or whatever - it's a tool to get to an end. Don't feel like you have to put a price on what your kids are doing. Just do the best that you can.

Kerry M. said:
Hello,
This might be a little bit of a different question, but I am wondering how larger families deal with kids who feel like they are getting short changed? my 14 year old DD is into horses and the hunter/jumper thing, it is an expensive hobby especially with all of the showing costs, clothing needs, hotel stays ect.. on the other hand my other children(I have 7 total) want to enjoy hobbies as well, some aren't into things that cost as much and some want to be in things that are also costly. How do you fairly give everyone what they want? I just can't justify spending $$ on each and every single thing, yet I wonder if it is fair that one child is into something that costs more? this causes resentment among them and a fair amount of arguments ect.. sometimes I feel like nobody can do anything then because it all costs so much. My daughter has been riding since she was 4 and everyone tells her she has alot of natural ability and could go far. Wondering how to make it all equal or fair?
Hello,
Thanks for the reply. I still wonder though how to have them see it that way? my children seem to think one gets more then the other and that one is "Spoiled". My 2nd oldest daughter enjoys horses as well, so I signed her up for riding lessons first. I want her to ride awhile and learn more about horses before we get one for her. My 3rd daughter is also riding but she rides a different style and we take lessons at a different stable for her. My oldest owns a horse right now and we board at a hunter/jumper stable near by. My 12 year old says it isn't fair and Ashlynn gets more then her. I also wonder how I could afford boarding two horses for two people! that is where it gets sticky! I can't justify 1,000/month in board and my husband would be really angry. I can justify one and that is where financially it ends. We have room at home but it isn't what my daughter wants. She wants to ride all year long in the indoor arena at the stable(Minnesota winters arent friendly for outdoor riding!). How do you manage that? how is it fair for one daughter to board and have a horse and not the other one or two? this is where I am conflicted. All answers to this are appreciated!

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