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Are they your children or are they your employees? Did they ask to come work on your farm in return for compensation (Room and board), or were they conceived without any say in the matter and brought into an environment that you and your partner chose for yourselves?I am also wondering if anyone on here runs an at home business or a farm that requires many people to help out?
As someone who was raised on a farm, I get the need for help. I do. And I also understand that being able to afford hired help is rarely an option for farmers.
However, that said, the times that I was MOST willing to help, and in the best mood while helping, was when I was included in major decision making about something that was happening, or when I was "allowed" to do something that was normally a task reserved for my parents. Maybe asking the kids if they want to learn how to do something that previously was reserved for adults, or including them on a major decision that will then lead them to having a roll in carrying out the action.
And yes, I loved it when I got to do things with my parents. Shearing day, when we all worked together, or even worming day, when all the sheep (we raised sheep and cattle, but my mom was raised on a dairy farm, so I get it) had to be run through the facility and wormed, or when I got sent out on the horse to round up the cows all by myself. Those were cool, because I got responsibility and independence and I learned a lot of self-reliance by doing it.
I am wondering if there is away to incorporate some of these things into what might normally be monotonous daily chores to make them fun or a time to really acquire more independence on their part? And the flip side of that is that you are going to have to be okay with them sometimes saying, no thanks. It's hard. I struggle with it with my 4, and we don't farm right now, so I understand that that amps up the "need" even higher on your part, but the freedom to chose on their part is worth it, and in the end I think will lead them to wanting to take a larger role.
Does anyone have links for the blogs of a Laura or Melissa mentioned? I have seven children & would be interested in reading those blogs.