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Sandra, I checked with Pat and she says she's happy for that list to be anywhere it can be helpful. Its Pat Robinson (aka wuweimama).
Meredith (or Pat?), thank you very much for all these ideas on what to do with a very active child who needs lots of intense body contact. When I read through the thread I realised how different physical activities can be. Ballet is something where you practise to control your body, so it might not be right thing for your daughter, Terra. Actually, it sounds like she could have a lot of fun playing American football.
I also think it is very important to show her that she is still loved even when slapping. This is certainly very challenging for you. Our children need us the most when we are the least able to help them. They feel it is not right be aggressive, violent or hateful and they are afraid that we don't love them anymore. The fact that she wanted to talk about the damage in the bathroom door also shows that she has a need to express her feelings. Have you read "Raising our children, raising ourselves" from Naomi Aldort? The book helped me a lot in understanding why validating feelings is so important and what unconditional parenting means in extreme situations. We are challenged as parents.