[Bolded quotes you see below are from a/n ... in/famous 100+ thread. Commentary (mine) in regular unbolded type]
Trust that any parent that is drawn to radical unschooling knows that denying a 4 year old comfort would be cruel. And if they don’t they need more help than a few sentences mixed into a 100 post thread.
I think it is striking the personal growth that can be inspired (*is* inspired) by discussions on public forums. The fact that many parents don't know what actions deny a child comfort isn't mysterious to me. One help for such parents is available in the format of 100+ (or less) post threads. The cost is simply the time and attention to read. Otherwise free and in my opinion worth every bit of the time.
Hundreds of other parents that are just learning about unschooling could be reading this threat.
When you really look at this thread it is rather threatening to a mother that is desperate for compassionate support isn’t it? Freudian slip perhaps?
A slip which was clearly explained here:
"Thread," I bet you meant (not threat)--it was in another post too. Computer problems this week, right?
YesThread ! Sorry My keyboard is really almost unusable and my laptop is outof order. But Mostly is just me not re-reading what I wrote This is my son;s computer and I do not want to keep him away from his games.
One of the things that helps me in reading through long discussions when I'm fairly new to or haven't ever been very active in a forum/list is to assume that not knowing the people who frequently post might mean I won't fully grasp what's going on as the multiple posts fly up and down the screen. Just in the sheer number of inevitable nuances due to personal interactions.
When I first began reading on unschooling lists, the unfamiliarity of the concepts was enough mystery for me to deal with sans further mystification. I definitely felt the tone was harsh in those days. I went away, and came back, left for a while, and returned, and I mostly lurked for a rather longish bit. I guess I really must love a puzzle.
These days, now that I've had lots of time to let the endless discussion wash over me and percolate in my mind as *idea* separate from *post* or *person posting,* it's easy for me to understand the kindness that wasn't at first apparent. I see now that there was no harshness (and in a sense, there's no kindness), not personally. There's only the *perception* of harshness or kindness. Which is true? Maybe neither.
Does it matter? Maybe, maybe not.
What does matter to me is that the kindness that I began to feel ... to know ... is in the thinking imparted to me as I implement unschooling principles along with my family. We're here together now, living in a way I could not have imagined. It is so wonderful.
Everyone's experience of honesty and open discussion will vary, and so may our mileage vary on unschooling lists. All depending on our willingness and ability to grow and learn from those wordy strangers on the internet. Wordly on, dude!