the network for radical unschooling families
Talk to others in your area to see how they satisfy legalities and unschool. Other than that, read some here:
and here (there are a few math pages on this site linked on the left hand column down a bit on the page):
If you can trust that a child will learn how to walk and talk then you can trust that they will pick up what they need to know about math in the world too. Math exists for a reason. We use it all the time in our daily lives, when we pay bills, when we go grocery shopping, when we make patterns, or sew, or cook for lots of people. If you can find it all around you, and NOT in the workbooks, you'll be one step closer to relaxing about math.
alot of time it seems im just helping figure out what to write and in the shortest possible way so we can get threw the school work we need to get mailed off
Well, yes, that's what the majority of imposed education comes down to - finding the easiest way to satisfy someone else's requirements. Learning naturally, on the other hand, arises from self motivation, and as a result when someone is learning by choice she may actively choose to do More, work harder, take more risks.
My 16yo stepson used to be in public school and learned to do as little as possible to get by. It took him a year - two in some areas - to be self-motivating again. Now he'll stay up late at night working on projects or get up early in the morning to meet his goals, but it wasn't an instant switch.
If you do start unschooling, it can help to tell yourself and your kids that you're on vacation from anything schooly for awhile. Kick back and enjoy life! When you start getting antsy about "learning" go and do some research on your own, ask more questions here if you like or browse around those two sites Jenny gave links to - they're both fantastic.
Have you looked into Self Design? http://www.selfdesign.org/sdlc.html
I'm in BC, too. My kids are still in public school for now, but other moms have said good things about their program. One said she'd been able to combine the government money of her two boys and buy a trampoline! However, another said she didn't like her learning consultant and the weekly learning reports were an ordeal for her.