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I have a friend who feels to me on the verge of taking the plunge, maybe not all the way to RU, but at least to homeschooling. I'm taking it slow with her, lol.
So this morning she wrote to thank me for some unschooling answers I had given her on Formspring, and she ended with this:
and... i was trying to kinda get my thoughts about school... and although for the most part, i have been very happy with the kids teachers... i do so much enrichment and exploration with the kids at home- sometimes i do wonder, "... and WHY am i sending them to school?"
sometimes i think our main reason for sending them to school is "to develop armor" <--- ugg... that sounds horrible! but, somewhat true... i do everything in my control to create a happy loving safe environment at home... where the kids feel free to express themselves and open up and explore without judgement or criticism- and then i send them out to school... knowing that it's hard at times... but also knowing.. i *can't* give them those "life lumps" that will "make them strong" :(
This argument has never made any sense to me, and is so far from my reality that I have a hard time coming up with a well-formed response (other than, "That's insane!" which isn't very helpful, lol)
Very recently I thought I had read an EXCELLENT response to this issue (which comes up a lot. . .what's with our crazy culture that we think everyone has to be tortured at a young age in order to survive into adulthood??), and I can't for the life of me remember where it was or who said it - can anyone here help point me in the right direction? I want to treat this question respectfully, since I believe this person really is on a path of change.