My daughter is 3.5, and lately she is obsessed with whether someone's choice to do something (or not) is good or bad. This came about because she asked me why someone was doing something and if they were a bad person. I told her that they may be making an obviously bad choice, but that doesn't mean they are a terrible person. She took that and ran with it...now she is constantly commenting on it! She tells the dog he is making a bad choice by ripping open the trash (yet again), or she tells my DH he has made a good choice by picking up his dirty clothes (huge problem in our house for DH, lol. We have discussed how we can't clean the house or do the laundry or walk if the floor is 3 feet deep with dirty clothes flung everywhere.)
We don't do any rewards or punishments and never have, so it's not as if she is worried about that. She has no concept of what a punishment even is! We do talk about everything openly, like how frustrated it makes momma when she throws all her toys in the floor and leaves them, for example...Just general things about how to be considerate, keep in mind what you do (or don't do) effects others you live with, which I think is an important part of living consensually.
What are your thoughts on good vs. bad? Is this maybe a phase she's going through? I'm not sure what to think of it. I'm not even sure it really bothers me, considering she's not equating bad with punishment or good with reward. She's thinking along the lines of bad=this disrupts the harmony in our home/hurts yourself or someone else/etc. I've been trying to also explain that there are multiple reasons why someone may make a "bad" choice, that it isn't just black and white, but I'm not sure she is quite old enough to fully grasp that concept yet.