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In the past few years I've let SO much stuff go - daily stuff. My expectations of my husband are pretty low - not in a bad way, but in a way that allows us both to feel comfortable. I don't expect that he'll
jump through hoops for me - "to make me happy" and he is constantly
saying how lucky he is. We often discuss how our relationship and
family etc is so drastically different than that of so many people we
know. I have one particular girlfriend who seems never to be happy.
Her husband can never do enough to "make" her happy. We have had
numerous occasions to look at each other and smile - because we both
realize that we are happy with the other simply for who they are.
My husband once held a job that at first, NONE of my friends (male or
female) understood - and I quote, "how can you let him work there?" I
got tired of explaining to people that #1 I'm not his mother, I don't
tell him what to do and #2 it really was a perfect job for him LOL.
After lengthy explanation, most of the people I talked too said they
got it.... though I know they didn't agree with it.
I wasn't always like that though - it took time. It took a lot of me
looking at myself and saying, well if you don't like it what are you
going to do about it? Why don't you like it? And then realizing that
if I don't like something the only REAL thing I can do is change how
I react to it, rather than trying to make someone else change. Before
I started making these changes my husband would say (often) that I was
too controlling, that I was mothering him, that nothing was good
enough for me. I finally listened. And it made a world of
I am seeing the whole unschooling philosophy (particularly the
interpersonal relationship part) as another opportunity for me to
listen - to our son and what he tells me - both directly and
I'm not sure what you mean by the 5th and 7th,
In the original post the 5th one doesn't seem to go with the 7th condition? It seems waited to the child or children as rulers and not equal partners in a family.