What's up people, I guess I am relatively new to Radical Unschooling, some info and a question.

[C. D. Eagle]

Okay first some info on how I decided I want my future children (single and no kids lulz) to live a radically unschooled lifestyle.

It all started when I was researching for my paper on corporal punishment in college. Back then I was semi-pro-spanking. I found a book called, "Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason" by Alfie Kohn.... needless to say this book blew my mind and I went on a research rampage. Shortly after I found out all the negative effects of spanking and of most mainstream parenting techniques such as using rewards and punishments to control a child's behavior. Then I located NaturalChild.org which had a gold mine of information for me. So from there I decided to buy the "Unschooling Unmanual" While I was all for a non-punishment/non-reward approach to parenting, I was skeptical about Unschooling. After-all I had been thoroughly brainwashed by the public/private educational system I thought it was needed to become educated. After reading the Unmanual my mind was, once again, blown. I then began researching unschooling, then I came across Dayna Martin and bought her book "Radical Unschooling: A Revolution Has Begun" I also bought many of John Holt's books and more of Alfie Kohn's...... basically what I am saying is I am SOOO excited about this parenting philosophy. Now comes my question...

How the HECK am I going to find a girl who even somewhat agrees with this philosophy... every girl I have gone on a date with either:

A) thought I was weird bringing up parenting

or

B) loved the idea I was thinking ahead, but then scoffed at the idea of radical unschooling and said kids need to be hit and blah blah. I try to point out all available research but they never want to hear it at all.

Am I really unlucky or something? How do you guys find your partners... I was tempted to make a eHarmony or Match.com account just to see if some radical unschoolers were on there, but I definitely don't have that kind of moneyz lol.

So ya, what is the best way to find girls who want to use the radical unschooling philosophy? (I asked that as if it was answerable LOL)

[Charissa Vaunderbroad]

It is hard to meet like minded people, these are cynical times, but with time and effort you will.
I didn't realize the magnum was yours, it's a great photo. Hope you find a cool girl to go shooting with:)

[C. D. Eagle]

Charissa Vaunderbroad said:

It is hard to meet like minded people, these are cynical times, but with time and effort you will.
I didn't realize the magnum was yours, it's a great photo. Hope you find a cool girl to go shooting with:)

Yup, I am confident that I will find a nice girl, being patient helps lol.

Yeah thank you about my magnum, I don't hunt, I am not really a hunter I went once and felt bad LoL but I do like shooting at the targets at a range lol.

[Cheryl Etzel]

I was also opposed to homeschooling, let alone unschoooling, prior to having kids. I knew nothing of attachment parenting, other than I knew I wanted to breastfeed for the baby's good health. Having a baby forced me into a new world I had never even considered I would enter prior to becoming a mother. I had no idea my world would turn upside down when the baby was mine.

I agree with Jan - an online dating service does cut through some of the crap. I think having common goals is pretty important and those dating services really get you there. AP service is especially cool. Jan, that should be a link on your site. :)

Have you considered attending a conference, specifically, this one?
http://theautodidactsymposium.com/start.htm?keep_session=904848798&...

I think because it's geared toward teens and young adults, it gets you into a mix of young unschoolers as well as families. The broader your unschooling circle, the more likely you're going to meet women who are likeminded and available.

[Linda Hessel]

If you're setting up dates *before* getting to know the person, you might be waiting a long time to find somebody you click with, I mean statistically speaking that's like searching for a needle in a haystack. What's your social scene like right now? When I think back to how I met my husband, I was living in a town and going to school in a place where there were a high percentage of people who shared many of my values. I took some classes and got involved with groups and activities that had high concentrations of those people. This wasn't intentional, in terms of looking for a mate, but just where I fit in, but it did have the effect of helping my chances of finding someone like-minded. I ended up meeting him because he was a friend of friends, and we did things together for a long time as a group. Our friendship developed first so that I had some low-pressure time in which to find out exactly who he was and what his values were, and those were what drew me to him and made me want to be with him.

As for talking about these things early with a potential mate -- I think it's very smart. Better to weed early, although it might turn out to be that you've actually planted a seed for later.