Alane's Page

"NJ requires nothing--no "check in" or registration, no testing, no reporting."

"Nice to be here :) Funny to think I've been reading unschooling boards (Starting back at unschooling.com) for something like ten years now. Still no kids, but we're getting close now. Now that houses are within reach for the first time in…"

"Right. I thought about it some more later, and the "thought" or intention isn't even to balance, but not to fall down. And so with people's relationships the idea isn't "have balance" but "don't screw it…"

"As I was reading this I was thinking, "Not only do you not have to think about it to balance on a bike, but half the difficulty of learning to ride is learning to *stop* thinking about it. Because that's usually when you crash."

"I like the term personal homeostasis. That is how I have been understanding it. It speaks to balance and naturalness, and then personal assures that it is understood to be individualized."

"-=-Words matter, certainly, but if the underlying ideas aren't clear, the words can be twisted.-=- It's likely that "the underlying ideas" will be created of words and concepts involving terms. If the underlying ideas are…"

""Balanced" can run into the same problem though, if the parents believe that THEIR idea of balance for the child holds more weight than the child's. Words matter, certainly, but if the underlying ideas aren't clear, the words…"