Oh, now that I went back and reread your first comment, I realize you were asking what the meet up would look like, not what you being wishy-washy would look like to me!!!!
It wouldn't be anything serious, I have no plans on having a 'schedule of events' or such, just some snacks, blankets to hang out on and maybe bring a couple balls and such. Pretty much just an afternoon at the park, but with people on the same path!
Honestly, my son isn't big on groups and especially not groups where he knows no one. There would be no pressure from us, if he'd rather be off doing his own thing!
Right now it looks like it will just be Elijah & I tomorrow, because Jen had a last minute quasi family emergency. I think we are going to try to get together again on Friday or next week. Would you like to come tomorrow or at least be kept in the loop about other days?
Well, my feelings on the matter are, if you say you are going to be somewhere and don't call & don't show then it does suck for everyone else. However, being a Ruer, I understand last minute canceling of plans -- because after all, you don't want to be forced to go somewhere and neither do your children :)
Thanks to my wishy-washy child, I come off as a flake from time to time, but I always call/email and try to explain.
I wouldn't worry so much about labels; I'm sure that nobody is 'really' 100% RU...I knowingly eat things with honey in them from time to time, but that doesn't mean that I am not a vegan! If your idea of how the world should work/does work is RU and your heart is pulling you in that direction, then I'd say that's all that matters.