"Oh! Looks like at least a couple families on that unschooling gamers group play Gary's Mod! Definitely check it out! Maybe you can hook him up with a group of unschoolers and he can have his cake and eat it. That would be awesome. "
"Do you or your husband play the game, too? That's something we found helpful when my stepson was playing online games - my partner played enough to be able to help Ray navigate some of the odd social situations. Kids often need help figuring…"
"It can help to plan outings ahead of time so you can get your introvert doing something portable right away - watching movies or playing games on a laptop, or a hand-held game like the DS. That way he can bring his project along - and I've…"
"Boredom and depression go hand in hand for some people - there's a kind of boredom that Is a kind of low-grade depression. Some of that could be hormonal, or it could stem from a feeling that he Should be doing something - but as Laura said…"
Radical unschooling is a really different paradigm of adult-child interactions. Its challenging to envision relationships outside a model of limits and testing and adult-based decision making - it sounds wacky. How can you have relationships without limits? Craziness.
Start someplace else. Start from ideas of exploration and autonomy and connections. Human beings are all about exploration and autonomy and connections - especially children.
From a radical unschooling perspective, children don't need limits in the sense that conventional parenting assumes. Limits are a natural part of life - the sun goes down, flowers fade, moms get tired, people miscommunicate. Natural limits. RU isn't about ignoring those or pretending they don't exist, its about finding ways to facilitate all that exploration and autonomy and connecting over and around and through the limits. Limits aren't the tools we use to manipulate the world and each other, they're the playground equipment we get to climb on.
how long have you been unschooling or homeschooling?
Okay, short summary of our strange life. I met Ray when he was 4 and having some very challenging times. He was pretty over-the-top and sometimes explosive. Yeeoow. Somehow, George and I fumbled along and found ways to help Ray - radical unschooly ways, if only we had known what that was! But we didn't, and started homeschooling. The more we drifted towards unschooling, the better life got! By the time Mo was born, Ray's life had gotten much easier - he wasn't nearly so explosive or extreme (still high energy, though!).
About a year after Mo was born, Ray's mom decided she was ready for him to live with her full time and go to school. We didn't stand in the way of that. Over time, Ray's intensity and explosiveness started to build back up until he finally pulled a knife on his mom's boyfriend. At that point he moved back in with us. He was 13 and in the process of being expelled from school.
In the intervening years we'd discovered radical unschooling! Hooray for all of us!
first names of children
Morgan is 10 and has been unschooled from the beginning, whenever that was.
Ray is 18! He's my stepson and you can read a very short history of my life with him above.
George is my partner and both kids' dad. He is sweet and strange and is also committed to radical unschooling, although he doesn't talk about it nearly as much as I do.
a little about me
I'm either slightly eccentric or a complete weirdo - its all in the eye of the beholder.
I quilt and knit and do all manner of homey things. I even built my own house! Nowadays I'm the breadwinner of the family, I make plaster accents and architectural details.
Hello Meredith, I do mention education allot, as it's everywhere, all the time. I speak of true education, without walls, without limits, and without censorship. Thanks for the info, and the helpful advice. I dont tend to worry much of the right place or wrong, as in my experience its the same thing,as we grow and learn from it. I know my mind, my family and my purpose, and I strive to accept other ways, as we are all here together on this journey, as people, parents and community. I find great peace in the growing numbers and acceptance of unschooling, as I started when parents where scorned by school districts and state for this very important choice. I look forward to discovering other like minded parents. Thanks
Hi Meredith, thank you for those links! I did mention taking charge of education. I didn't mean it literally.. where I will educate my children according to "standards". I just meant FREEDOM in education, whatever that may mean on any given day!! :) I am very new to homeschooling in general. My sister suggested this group/network of moms, and I'm just very excited to explore the world of RU!!!
I already "backed off" yesterday. You obviously didn't read the entire thread, because if you had, you would have seen where I was treated rudely, criticized, and judged. Also the man Raul was. He felt that way as well. Now there are two people who feel the same way about how someone treated them. ??? I do not allow people to treat me that way. I am a good person, who treats everyone with respect, I expect the same.
However, in florida you have to keep a portfolio to be audited and take annual standardized testing. Which causes alot of pressure. This seems to hinder the unschooling approach. In fact, I was told by the head admin. of the school board that they " arrest people like this and would have to aresst me too." If i chose to do " something illegal like that. " A.K.A; Uschooling
Thanks for the links! I have actually read a bunch of stuff from Sandra Dodd's website but the other site is new to me. I've been researching unschooling off and on for 5 years (thought we would be blessed with a child a lot sooner than we were) and I am just now beginning to put it all into practice. I've already been scanning through the forums and I can tell i've got a lot to learn still. Thanks again!!