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"Rain is back from college for winter break, after a successful first semester - she has her own column on the school website, does a weekly radio show with her roommate, has lots of new friends, got a job working with kids, made the rugby team (but…"

"The St. Louis one is pretty chill - I haven't gone but a couple good friends have. I wouldn't worry about being arrested, if you're just checking it out and not actually protesting. I think the only arrests were in the first day or…"

"I've always worked, in one way or another, but I managed to be with Rain most of the time. In California I worked as a "teacher" for an independent study charter school for a while, when Rain was little, and she would come with me…"

"Me! I have one daughter, now 18, and have been a single mom the whole way through so for 18 years it's been the two of us happily unschooling... and now she's headed off to college almost a thousand miles away. She's pretty thrilled…"

"I think instead of saying "you're allowed" or "you're not allowed" I'd say something like, "Here's the law, and here are my concerns." If my daughter and a couple of underage friends were over…"

"My daughter is 18 now. I also grew up having my own (tiny) glass of wine with meals, and so I never saw alcohol as something adults-only and taboo. I was somewhat worried about my daughter's drinking because her father (and perhaps her two…"

"Frank, a Tunisian woman told me a year or so ago, "The law cannot change the hearts of the people." I thought of that when I read your piece (my daughter and I spent last summer there, and my research is based there). She was talking about…"

"Are you under the impression that TCS advocates this? TCS advocates looking for mutually agreeable solutions, but if one can't be found, then the child's wants should take priority. As to the rarity of people actually wanting completely…"

"Not if she's feeling resentful about doing it, it won't. It will just lead to further separation. I don't have to balance my advice with TCS advice. It's a radical unschooling board here, not a TCS board. You don't have…"

"Win-win is your phrase (or "jargon", if you prefer). It's not one I've used, and not one anyone else has used on this thread, as far as I recall. Here's what I said about about two people wanting opposite…"

"  I'm not sure if you're interpreting something I've said to endorse "weaseling" or if that comment is based on some past experiences you've had with people who said they followed TCS. That's not something…"

"I was involved in the TCS email list during the mid-nineties, and one of the most helpful things I took from that was the idea of finding mutually agreeable solutions. Very few situations are really as black and white as they originally seem (I want…"

"So the problem is that he feels grumpy and disoriented when he wakes up, yes? That's what I'm reading. And he doesn't feel this way when he wakes up earlier? I would maybe see if there are things you could do to help him feel better…"