"We are in Victoria, but often visit the Surrey/Vancouver area. We would love to meet some people here or on the mainland, actually especially on the mainland as we are usually a bit lonely visiting parents and in laws with no kids my son's…"
"My ds has been watching dragonball z and he just found a new one, code geass, that is good. It does get pretty violent though, but he has an amazing tolerance for blood and guts, much more than I do these days. He loved Nausica and the valley of the…"
"Wow, this is such a great response and really gives a sense of how these things can be handled without resorting to force or control, but still ensuring that the underlying need (for safety, health, respect, etc) gets met. I am still struggling…"
"When you paused the game as I know you already are aware, it was disrespectful. I might ask the kids if they can pause the game for something. I could imagine though if Keith [my DH] wanted my attention and walked over to my computer and paused it.…"
"I told him I wasn't going to stop him from using the computer, that I just wanted to check in with him.
From his perspective, you were in the act of stopping him from using the computer. Can you see that? Its important.
It would be helpful…"
"In addition to seconding everything Schuyler wrote, keep in mind that for awhile he's going to really spend a lot of time and energy focussing on things he couldn't do as much as he's wanted in the past. Rather than hoping that…"
"-=-My son is 14 yrs old, and spends 24/7 on his computer playing World of Warcraft.-=-
I bet $100 dollars that's not true.
I know, it's a figure of speech. It's important to see what really is, though, instead of what you call a…"
"Some great suggestions, Sandra!
I am a newbie not only to unschooling, but also any homeschooling.
My son is 14 yrs old, and spends 24/7 on his computer playing World of Warcraft.
As you recomended to Tammy, I have been ...."accomadating"…"
"How long has he been home with you? How used to you and your life is he? A year away is a long time in an 8 year old life. I'm 40, if I were a year away from David and Linnaea and Simon that would be a long time, too. There would be a lot of…"
"-=-But we still have these big blow ups and power struggles-=-
If you become his partner instead of his adversary and owner and manager, you won't have power struggles. You'll be helping him do things he wants to do, and in exchange for…"
I was just reading other threads for ideas on how to deal with this situation and realized I should just post directly. Just for background, I am very new to RU and have two children, ds age 8 and dd age 8 months. My son and I were on our own for several years after I left a very abusive situation with his father, and he was in childcare and split between me and his dad for many years. My belief is that all the stress (even in the womb) and separation, combined with the mainstream parenting…See More
"I can answer the question about being a nurse....SHE WILL DO IT!! I know lots of people who became nurses at later ages and non traditional ways. You don't have to go to public schools to become a nurse.
I agree. Although I became a social…"
It means living in partnership with my children on their journey and letting go of my need to control them. Being their ally. Learning to parent peacefully and respect them as people. Watching them with wonder as they become fully realized people. Trusting them. Trusting myself.
how long have you been unschooling or homeschooling?
About a year and a half now. It has been quite the leap. I did "unschool" myself when I was a teen, quit school and ran away from home. Not that it did me any harm, I managed to graduate from university anyway. Not that that did me much good either.
first names of children
Terran - 10
Asha - almost 2
a little about me
Crazy. Tired. Full of wonder, but not always wonderful. I am an artist, musician, dj, kitchen witch, homebirthing, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, babywearing wisewoman in training. I love my family, and I am learning how to show it.
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