"What if your child makes an agreement with you and then wants to get out of his/her end of it? I made a verbal agreement with my son that if we got him a nice ($220) guitar for Christmas last year that he would agree to do 1 year of guitar lessons.…"
Teaching my son to think for himself and allowing him to learn his own way, on his on time, and on the subjects of his choosing--not mine.
It also means letting go--it's a continual letting go process. Letting go of preconceptions about what constitutes learning--constantly learning myself, both for my own gratification and for the benefit of being a role model for my son, letting go of what others think about our unschooling, even letting go of what I THINK, sometimes.
It also bleeds over into our daily life. It means not worrying, really, about stupid stuff. For example, giving up hassling him about his hair, his clothes, whatever...and just letting him BE the person of HIS OWN CHOOSING.
It also means giving him food for thought. Giving him options, spending money on guitar lessons, supporting what he's passionate about even if I don't share those feelings.
I think if I had to sum it up in one sentance it would be this, "RU means separating my own identity from my child's, and supporting the flowering of that identity in any way that is required at any given moment."
how long have you been unschooling or homeschooling?
One year, but I've always been an unschooler at heart--I just didn't know it. :)
first names of children
Zack - age 10
a little about me
I'm a reformed therapist, a writer, an artist, a health nut, a mostly raw food vegan, a reader, political junkie, single mom, a health and nutrition business owner...more later.
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lol! Yes, I have lived my life that way!
I am amazed no one has written this kind of children's homeschool book yet.
It is beautiful though. Even the printer said he loved it and had to read every word! (course he is living in all those fumes... wink!)
I love how you said, "I've always been an unschooler at heart--I just didn't know it." That is exactly how I felt when I met my unschooling buddies. Finally people who thought a lot like me! Yahoo!
smiles and glad we are friends