I am sure those of you who read my last post and those who commented understand that I was frustrated and saddened this week by a not so fabulous visit from family. It has brought to mind how important it is that my DH and I keep doing what we are doing. I don't ever want to hear my children say we make them feel like they were 10 again or we are too busy trying to control their lives that we don't live ours. Or worse, that our home is not a safe place mentally or emotionally...
I am a pretty honest sometimes blunt person. I can handle things with great diplomacy, but sometimes it doesn't matter how something is said or done. Mixed messages drive me nuts. For example, we are told that homemade gifts are the best, they are great and very welcome. When we give homemade gifts they have always seemed welcomed and wanted. Today I found out that they don't always keep or use the items made for them. I am not sure how to feel. I do feel hurt as I spend a lot of time creating things, and so do the kids, they have said they want or would like. I have told them that if they don't like something to let me know so I don't continue the mistaken trend. If the color isn't right or they go out of style, give it back and I can reuse or repurpose the yarn. How do you react when without ever once wearing something (in this case handwarmers that were similar to the ones they saw in a magazine that they liked and wanted) in the color they always wear you find out they threw them away? I mean in the trash, not given to anyone? Yeah.....seriously. We can't afford gold and diamond jewelry no matter who wants it. Those things aren't important to me either.
For any of you who knit when I say the word Malabrigo, do you know what I mean? If you don't knit or go to a LYS (local Yarn Store) you may never have had the opportunity to feel and drool over a lovely skein of Malabrigo yarn. The handwarmers were knit in cables using Malabrigo yarn. (not the lace or sock weight--the yummy really warm super soft stuff). *sigh*
So it is finally over and we are looking forward to a wonderful weekend as a family. We have been as nice as humanly possible while biting tongues so as to not create angry outbursts....we have smoothed childrens feathers. We have tossed papers on the floor just to remind ourselves that we live here and it is our house...Then we picked up the papers because it didn't look right. LOL
I let my son eat a slice of pumpkin pie for dinner tonight. It was all he wanted. My DD is zonked on the sofa for the night. My DH and I stayed up playing WOW to our hearts content and the boys played video games. Tomorrow is a new day with new things to do and more lives to touch. We are creating hats, scarves and items for those in need of warm winter clothes--I hope they will appreciate them....they are made from the heart.